People that make your baby cry...will you seek revenge?!?

I don't think you are mean I have a 5 month old and she is going threw this right now for some odd reason. No one else but me can hold her. Some days it is so bad that my husband can't hold her. I know I have the same problem my family takes her and says ohh just let her cry she is just doing this to see who's boss.(when I know for a fact is that she is scared)